I sent this email today.
I just listened to ‘The Inside Scoop on Lady Reporters’ and it stirred up the damn fire in my bones:
Like the second-wave feminists, I find myself annoyed and a little too disgruntled for my own good (ha-ha!) over the remarks about how “gender-equal” newspapers always were. Admittedly, it is possible to do worse than one in three bylines or one in five management positions, but at best that is still men having twice as many. Give any child’s sibling twice as much as them, and they will not be satisfied if you tell them that it is basically the same amount. I know it’s easy to not notice common injustices, but this culture is not kind to women. Either what a woman earns is called pretty close to what a man does, or it’s not close at all and is attributed to a short-falling on her part.
Imagine the opposite, though. If women were at an advantage, it would not last. If men did poorly in an undertaking women did well, the entire system would be discounted, not the men. Men are treated as valid, as the standard, and any way women deviate from that is seen as their degree of inferiority. Although, if women do well, that is seen as suspect. Men are accepted and praised, women are scrutinized and either criticized or regarded warily.
No, this isn’t the case in every instance. But not being treated anywhere near equally is far more common, especially if you consider class, and hearing two women talk so offhandedly about the struggles of womankind is hard for me. Perhaps you don’t feel them, but I still do.
That said, I really enjoy your podcasts. I don’t like that I never bothered to email you when I was happy and now am disgruntled and commenting, but I still believe my words are important.
Someday, I’ll live in a world where I don’t feel like a monster for adding my voice to the cacophony.